Are You A Good Wedding Guest?

On October 27, 2010

One of my favorite pastimes is people watching.  Put me anywhere with a comfortable chair and some foot traffic and I’m in heaven.  That’s one of the reasons I love wedding receptions!  I can sit for hours watching guests eat, drink and dance (and I do) and never get bored.

Recently, I truly paid attention to the behavior exhibited by wedding guests.  Watching everyone from wallflowers to the extremely drunk got me thinking…what makes a good wedding guest?

Here are a few do’s and don’ts that will help anyone become a good or even better wedding guest!


…wait until the last minute to return your RSVP card if you know that you will not be able to attend.  Being a good guest in that way will encourage couples with those dreadful B-Lists to do better, as well.

…invite someone to attend with you if his or her name is not on the outer or inner envelope of the invitation.  You also should not call the bride or groom and ask if you can bring a guest!  If you don’t want to leave your kids with a sitter or don’t like attending weddings alone, then don’t go!

…bring your gift to the wedding.  Have it sent to the home of the bride and/or groom prior or up to one year after the wedding.  Their address will be on file at the store where they’ve registered.

…wear white.  White is for the bride only.  If you wear white everyday like LisaRaye, you won’t die from choosing a different color for a few hours!

…skip the ceremony and just show up at the reception.

…get drunk!  If you know that 1, 2, or 3 drinks is your maximum before you start acting like you’re at the Jersey Shore, then don’t have more drinks than that.  Trust me, it happens.  I recently had to put shoes on a drunk wedding guest (to keep her from stepping in the glass that she dropped and broke) right before physically placing her in a taxi.

…allow your underage kids to drink, even if you let them do it at home!  Allowing children to drink at a reception puts the venue and the bride and groom at risk.

…drink if you are pregnant.  Sounds insane, but just a few weeks ago at a wedding, a guest was resting her wine glass on her baby bump in between sips.  Nothing spoils the fun like a pregnant woman getting drunk!

…do any dances that require your entire body to be on the floor!  Nothing good can come of it.


…RSVP before the specified date.  Being a good wedding guest starts before the wedding!

…dress appropriately.  Follow the formality displayed in the invitation and you can’t go wrong.

…arrive on time.  Guests should not be part of the Processional.

…sit where assigned at the reception, if applicable.  Couples spend countless hours figuring out where they want people to sit for a reason.  Rearranging that is a slap in the face to them.

…eat what is served.  Unless you have food allergies, be gracious and eat what is served as is.  It’s not Burger King; you can’t have it your way.

…take your wedding favors home.  Acknowledge how much money and effort the bride and groom put into presenting that token of appreciation to you by taking the gift home.

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~ Jon’ette

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