Ask Jonette: What Is Appropriate Attire For Guests?

On October 4, 2010

Today’s question is “What’s appropriate attire for guests?  Is it ever okay at a wedding to wear black?”

Good one!  I’ve seen a little bit of everything when it comes to guests’ “fashion sense” and sometimes it’s not pretty.  Once a groomsman brought his stripper girlfriend to the wedding and she was dressed as if she was leaving the reception and heading straight to Magic City!  We almost saw her birth canal and if you stared long enough, you could see her actual implants, but I digress.  I’ll save the rest for my first book.

This question is precisely why it’s imperative that brides and grooms follow the rules involved in sending wedding invites and properly relaying the formality of their wedding via the invitations!  First, let’s start with what’s appropriate attire.  That depends 100% on the formality of the wedding invitations.  As a guest, if you receive an invite that is so gorgeous that you don’t want to anyone to put their dirty hands on it, chances are it’s at the very least a semi-formal event.  For women, that means a cocktail dress or a jazzy suit.  For black or white tie events, go all out with a beautiful, long dress.  Think more Charlotte from Sex and the City than prom.  For men, semi-formal means put on a suit, with or without a tie.  For black or white tie events, rent a tuxedo!

If the invitations are casual, then be casual.  As long as you omit denim, flips flops and shorts you should be fine!  However, it’s important to remember that as a guest, whether it’s a wedding or some other special event, it’s ALWAYS better to be overdressed than underdressed!

Is it ever okay to wear black to a wedding?  Yes, absolutely.  As long as you don’t wear white, the color of your attire is far less important than the formality of it.

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~ Jon’ette

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